How to disengage from the Inner Critic? Make sure that you read part I

DISENGAGING FROM THE INNER CRITIC.

Throughout the exercise in part I, the witness has been present, watching the inner critic and the inner kid. You, as the witness, are the adult. You need to support the inner kid in the same way that you would support a small kid you see being bullied or a small child who has lost their parents in the grocery store.

You need to let them know that it’s okay and that you as the adult witness will look after them. Be there fully for that part of yourself.

Then, you can turn to the inner critic and let it know that you are now going to be making the decisions. Thank them for all the work they have done, and let them know you are simply letting them go — giving them early retirement, so to speak. They no longer have to show up for work every day to making sure that your life goes the right way. There is no need to enter into negotiation you simple say thank you and good-bye.

TRY THIS EXERCISES BELOW:

When you pay close attention to the voice, whose voice does it remind you of? It may sound like yours but whose tone, style and language does it have.

WAYS TO DISENGAGE FROM THE INNER CRITIC WHEN IT STARTS TO ATTACK YOU

Challenge it! Demand to see its credentials!

Simply ask, ‘What gave you the authority to rule my life? I want to see your credentials’.

Expose the unreality of the superior position they have. Take away the illusion of power that come from that place.

Say to them, ‘I have not placed you in a position to judge me or my life, so please don’t do it.’

Do not accept the proclamations coming from the superior position. Reject the conclusions, judgments, opinions, advice and evaluations

One question I often get asked is: ‘How do I tell the difference between the inner critic and my internal guidance?’